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Old married couples please read, am i being stubborn?

My hubby and i are 63yrs, have been married 38yrs,and retired, we live in a 4brm 2 bath home with a good size yard, we have lived here for 34 yrs.. We own rental homes that my husband has always maintained himself, he has every tool/equipment/supplies etc a man would need to do any repair job. We also have a motorhome, extra cars, boat and other crap, lol,,,,,,2 of our rentals have detached garages with fairly big yards where my husband stores all the stuff. Here is the problem, my husband want to move to a place with a bigger yard so he can store all his stuff in one place. I on the other hand think its time to downsize and enjoy our lives, i DO NOT want to move, this is our home and i am happy here, plus hubby is a junk collector so having more space would mean more junk. I realize a move would make him happier but what about me? We are at a standstill on this, i refuse to move and he is determined to find his dream house with a big yard. What shall we do?

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1. If you already have a large lot ?

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2. Get marriage counseling. Or live in separate houses.....

Seriously, I would probably let the guy have his house with big yard. He's got plenty of crap anyway. If he's a hoarder he's going to hoard no matter what. You've lived with it 38 years, a few more won't kill you.

3. My husband and I and many of of friends are with you, we are in our sixties too, and as the years have gone by we have downsized quite a bit, we sold our rentals, invested our money he has already retired and I have just two more years to go, but in the meantime we are still downsizing, we now own a mobil home, just right for us, with little yard work, so we can take it easy and travel all we want and we do. Your husband is not thinking about how he plans on keeping up all of your belongings, when he won't be able to, due to old age, maybe he is just in denial and thinks he'll be able to do what he does now forever, but of course this is not true. Good luck in getting him on your side.

4. I've been married for 30 years and as you know making it work is all about compromise. I'm sure over the years that he's done things just because it is what would make you happy. If the only thing that will make him happy is getting a house with a bigger yard, I say go with it. Would it really be so awful to get a new house? You might be able to build and get exactly what you want or at least upgrade from what you currently have. The most important thing is keep your relationship strong.

5. I guess I'm just a lucky b******d. Wife and I have been married 49 years. She's still 'in love' with me and would fly to the moon with me if that's what I wanted.

6. Peggy I am 54 and my husband is 64. I sit him down and explain the real hard cold truth of packup everything....as I walked him around the property and shed's etc. Explaining we will have to do ALL THIS AND THIS packing it up moving it. Are you really ready physically to do this move? If he dug his heels in I would do it.

Stop the standstill. Make a decision. I am for the move. he will owe you big time!!