Planning a trip around America (need transport help)?
you guiys might remember me i asked the same question yesterday, but i want to add a little bit more information hi, im planning a trip around america, and when i mean, around america, i mean every state. (except alaska and hawaii) but anyway, what do you guys think would be the best way of transport for me to get around? i was thinking of a motor home, itd be good cause i wouldnt have to spend any money on motels/hotels but its also bad because you cant really park a motor home at theme parks and casinos and restaurants and stuff like that. so would you know any car rental places that will let you hire cars to ge around america for around 6 months. if not, is there any other way of transport that you would recommend? (im not flying, and i dont necessarily want to go taxi/bus hopping, so can you guys help me out? so far, i think motorhomes is the best idea, (i am not going to hitchhike lol) id buy a used car then sell when i get back, except that that will make me pay a lot more money on hotels and stuff. so does everyone agree that motorhome would be best idea? or does anyone else have any ideas?
How do I explain to my parents that I do not want them to move so close to me?
I moved away from my home town in Alaska to Oklahoma over 5 years ago. I moved away from my small hometown at 26 years old with my 3 children because I wanted to start my "own" life. I had just gotten out of a pretty bad marriage ( which my ex and his entire family also lived in the same small town) and it was time to move on. All of my family lived there and I had never lived anywhere else. I worked for my parents for 9 years at their coffee shop and I was ready to do more with my life. When I moved to OK, my parents were livid. Everyone told me how I was doing the wrong thing and that I would be back, that it wasn't fair that I was taking the kids away from them, so on and so forth. The guilt trips went on and on. In the 4 years I spent in OK, there were many ups and downs. My ex followed me to OK and lived in the same town ( and left back to AK a year later thank goodness!), I had re-married and had my 4th child, which my parent were completely unsupportive of. The marriage was a flop, very emotionally and physically abusive, so in early 2009 I left with my 4 children and moved to a very small town in OK about 40 miles away. In 2010 I ended up reconnecting with a friend that I actually graduated from high school with and we were married last year. Yes, I know, married 3 times and 32 years old deos not sound good. He is a wonderful husband and the most wonderful father to "our" children. We now live in South Florida. ( The other 2 "sperm donors" want nothing to do with the children and have not had any contact with them on their own accounts). My parents were also very skeptical about this marriage and the move, which is understandable from the past few years. My grandmother passed away in 2009, who also lived in my hometown and worked at the coffee shop with my mother and I. After she passed, my parents sold the coffee shop and decided that they wanted to move out of AK. When they had talked about moving before, my dad wanted to move somewhere he could start up his own dive shop, like in Hawaii. Just this past October, my dad quit a very good job that he has worked at for the past 20 years,they put their house and their rental properties up for sale and moved to NC, where all of my grandmother's family lives. They said they just couldn't spend another winter in AK. I don't know why they went to NC. The town they moved to is smaller than the town they moved from... I think my mom is trying to hold on to anything that is left of my grandma. Anyhow, they moved down in a motor home and decided that they would live in the motorhome until they buy or build a house. They also bought 5 acres of land in this little town. They were unhappy there so they moved to another town 2 1/2 hrs away and my dad got a different job doing the same thing he was doing in AK, but now he is working for 1/3 the pay. 2 weeks later they were unhappy there also. All they do is complain about everything and have a very negative outlook on everything that they do. Last week my dad came down to take my eldest son on a vacation to Key Largo that they had been planning for 5 years. While visiting he dropped it on me that they were seriously thinking about moving here to South Florida and looking to buy a dive shop around here. I have tried to explain that I like that they are close enough to visit, but I really don't want them in my backyard and that my husband and the kids and I have our own life here. My dad did not seem to even take anything I said into consideration. He was also very negative about everything when he was here. This was his first time meeting my husband and he was very rude. He didn't act like he enjoyed his time with my son or his time here. I was glad to see him go. I am having a hard time because we have a very happy life here. Our marriage is great, the children are happy. I moved away from AK and did not move back when things got tough in OK for a reason. My parents are very negative people and very judgemental. I just don't want the negativity around me.. I don't want the drama that they carry with them. They try to put me in the middle of their marriage and try to get in the middle of mine. When I put up boundaries they either ignore them or get so bent out of shape that I feel guilty. Quite honestly, I just don't want them here. I like for them to be close enough to visit on holidays and maybe a weekend every now and then ( like 6 or more hours away), but not 15 miles away. I also think it is rude that they didn't even ask how I felt about them moving so close, my dad just said they were going to do it...like in 2 weeks. My mom hasn't even mentioned it to me at all. WHAT DO I DO?? I am so upset about this that I am losing sleep over it.